About a year ago I was having a really hard time with my 14 year-old son. Just last summer he was hitting his head so badly against the wall that I was afraid that he might crack it open. As a mother, there is nothing more frightening or painful to watch than your child physically hurting himself (or others). So I took him to see a doctor who suggested that I institutionalize my son rather than try to identify why he was self-injurious among other things. The doctor suggested that this was the best option to make sure that my daughter would have a normal home life before leaving to college.
Mind you, it was not always this hard. I even considered my son extremely high functioning and then one day…he just didn’t seem like himself anymore. My son was at an age where he was beginning puberty, was in and out of different programs and was facing many transitions all at the same time. Afraid I wouldn’t be able to keep him safe from harm, I put him on medication that promised to help lower blood pressure and reduce the hormones that cause “fight or flight.” This is a very common medication that has helped kids with anxiety and aggression. The medicine seemed to work initially, but it was only a short four months later that I noticed he was building a tolerance to the medicine and it wasn’t working as well. It got so bad again that I couldn’t even be with my son in public during this phase.
Through the summer, I taught him how to take his medicine and he would do it with little resistance. I was so proud of him for showing responsibility. I thought it meant he knew the medicine was making him feel better so he wanted to take it. We had also begun participating in the grant program and doing the gf/cf diet.
Fast forward to the end of summer, eight days ago my son put the pill back in the bottle and said, “no medicine!” So I said, “ok, then you’re going to be the one responsible for feeling happy ok?” For the past eight days he’s been of meds and he’s had no bad or aggressive behaviors! We are off the medicine now and I’m pretty ecstatic about it! Thank you to all the people who believe in healing our children, the results we’ve seen in just two months are like a miracle to our family.