• June 11, 2013
  • Generation Rescue
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On the Meaning of Father’s Day

I’ve always said that I love being a father. My two boys have made me a much better person because they’ve taught me love and compassion in a way I would have not otherwise learned. I love everything about being a dad, even the fighting between my sons.  

First, my older son (with autism) is interacting, even if it’s in a “negative” way. Secondly, it really gives me the chance to shine as a father. It gives me the opportunity to teach my children about love and forgiveness. It gives me the opportunity to learn and show patience towards my children. Any credit or positive comments I’ve ever received as being a good dad I directly attribute to my children and what they’ve taught me.

Before my two boys were even born, a good friend of mine gave me words of advice that I still carry with me during my eight short years of fatherhood. He said, “You love your children, and make sure they know it.” I lived and learned these words through my own father, who has exemplified this my entire life. He taught me that there is nothing more important than family. He always placed his needs on the backburner so that my brothers, sister and I would have everything we needed. He even once took a second job just so my brother and I could have decent senior pictures. That’s just how he was (and still is), and that’s how I strive to be as a father.

So what does it take to be a good father? Are there any easy answers? Does it mean taking my two sons to their therapies when I’m so tired I can barely keep my eyes open? Is it taking Harrison to all his out-of-state doctor’s appointments? Is it (as my father always did) placing my needs secondary to my children’s? How can I find the answer to this seemingly easy question? How can I be the best father to my two boys? The (very basic) answer to all these questions came from an unexpected source: my four-year-old son, Isaac.

I had just made a not-so-good disciplining decision (all parents make mistakes) and was talking to him about it. I told him, “I’m sorry Isaac. I made a bad decision, but I’m just trying to be the best daddy I can be for you.” Isaac looked up at me with red and puffy eyes and said, “But you’re a good daddy.” I was so relieved to hear him say this, but for some reason I said, “But I just made a mistake. Why do you think I’m a good daddy?” Isaac looked back up at me and said, “Because you love me.”

That’s it. Isaac’s “because you love me” answers all the questions I just asked. Love your children, make sure they know it, and you have the foundation, the basic building blocks of being a good father (and parent). I love my children, and they do know it.

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